Originally posted: January 18, 2021
Edited: January 19, 2025
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” Martin Luther King Jr. (Strength to Love, 1963)
Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day. This day is a powerful reminder of our collective struggle for equality and justice. For many, it is a moment to reflect on Dr. King's profound legacy and recommit ourselves to the principles he championed. It is also a time to celebrate the unwavering determination of Black women, who have always been at the center of the movement for progress.
As we honor Dr. King’s memory, we must also recognize that the fight for justice is far from over. Recent events—both triumphant and challenging—underscore the necessity of showing up for Black women.
The 2024 election served as a powerful reminder of the significance of the Black vote, especially the impact on Black women. Once again, Black women united with a remarkable 92% strength in their collective efforts to help reshape the nation's future. Unfortunately, we had to come to terms with the harsh reality that, aside from Black men, we were nearly alone in this struggle. This pattern of Black women bearing the burden of democracy is finally being recognized, albeit at a critical moment, as we collectively choose to prioritize rest.
Tricia Hersey, founder of the Nap Ministry, argues that rest could be a form of resistance. In a recent interview with NPR, Tricia states "... right now rest is critical because it's counterintuitive and counter-narrative to see slowing down, napping and rest as a key to our movement for black liberation. But it really is so important because rest disrupts and pushes back and allows space for healing, for invention, for us to be more human. It'll allow us to imagine this new world that we want, this new world that's liberated, that's full of justice, that's a foundation for us to really, truly live our lives."
Michelle Obama is now being villainized for not attending the presidential inauguration happening today. Her decision, whether made by choice or due to a scheduling conflict, represents a significant act of protest—a refusal to normalize a political climate that often feels hostile to the values she embodies.
As a former First Lady, Michelle Obama has exemplified grace, resilience, and strength. Her absence from the inauguration sent a powerful message: silence is not an option, and complicity is not acceptable. For many Black women, her choice resonated deeply, reminding us that we have the right to prioritize our well-being and stand firm in our beliefs—especially when the world expects our labor without offering anything in return.
Michelle Obama's choice underscores a broader reality: Black women are frequently expected to support others without hesitation. We serve as the backbone of movements, the caretakers of our communities, and the driving force behind progress. However, we are often not given the same care and consideration that we provide to others. If all Michelle does is lie in bed today, I am proud of her.
On this Martin Luther King Jr. Day, let us recognize and celebrate the powerful force that Black women represent. We must also acknowledge the allies who stand with us—not just during moments of triumph but also in times of challenge and controversy. Dr. King’s words remind us that it is easy to remain on the sidelines during comfortable times. True allyship requires stepping up when it matters most.
Supporting Black women goes beyond empty words. It entails advocating for policies that tackle systemic inequalities, such as maternal health disparities and the gender pay gap. It means investing in Black-owned businesses, backing Black women-led initiatives, and amplifying our voices in spaces where we are underrepresented.
Additionally, it involves challenging the stereotypes and biases that undermine our contributions and deny us the humanity we deserve. Black women are not saviors or superheroes. We are human beings who deserve love, respect, and rest.
As we honor Dr. King’s legacy today, let us also honor the countless Black women who have carried the torch of justice through generations. From the Civil Rights Movement to now, but after all this hard work we are now choosing to rest. Others need to pick up the spear and fight the battles. To those who call themselves allies: continue to do the work. Speak up when it matters. Advocate for our rights and recognize our worth—not just when it is convenient but always.
But for now and possibly into the foreseeable future, Black women are choosing to rest. It’s time for the world to show up for us. We deserve it.
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